Gender loyalty - Interview with the mother...

The following is a short interview conducted via e-mail with the Mother...

Many thanks for agreeing to answer a few questions regarding your daughter's story....As you know I referenced in on a post I wrote on my blog about gender loyalty in females. For me it seemed like an excellent example of gender loyalty because it cut across family ties, so I just wanted to understand a bit more backround about your beliefs and principles if that's OK?

-Hi Xaan! I am flattered that you sent me this mail to talk about the subject. Let's start!! 

1) Would you describe yourself as believer in Female Supremacy? 

-Hum...Good question! Supremacy is a term which I can't relate very much, I can say that I believe that a matriarchal society would work better than the one where we, sadly, are condemned to live. But reversing the oppresion and committing the same mistakes made by men is something I can't find appealing. Altough...Marx said that the peaceful living among classes should be proceded by a proletarian dictatorship. So, maybe before a peaceful coexistence between the sexes we need some centuries of female supremacy? Who knows?!? Ahahaha... 

2) When your daughter first mentioned that she wanted to switch from Gymnastics to Judo, the sport your son was involved in, what was your reaction?

-I just said GO GIRL!!! Of course I had to encourage her  

3) How soon after this did she mention taking on her brother at Judo? 

-She did not. If he didn't start to taunt her, she would never had challenged him. This wasn't in her plans. 

4) At 5 years yonger and many years less experience than her brother, on paper this was a hopeless mis-match. What made you think she could succeed in her plan, why did you have so much faith in her ability? 

-Of course all those years as a gymnast shaped her body and her mind to train much harder than my son was used to. She had better conditioning and had surely more stamina and explosive strenght. Plus, she has a very high I.Q.! Above 160. I always said that fighting is skills and brain before raw strenght. I don't know the I.Q. of my son because he never measured it but... I expected her to provide a better fighting tactic than him and in fact, she did :) 

5) For even allowing this contest to go-ahead, would I be right in thinking that not only were you confident in a female over male victory, you were actually relishing it? If so, could you elaborate as to why? 

-When I was taking my second degree (in philosophy) I was attending a seminar about Carla Lonzi. One of her senteces remained stuck inside my head "Is important with men to quit the values they created for you". Then, I could not understand my feminists companions that, after their first child, they gave up and betrayed their ideology for maternal instinct and became overprotective especially with their sons. The first thing I told to myself was that I would had never allow that, and that I would had act inside the family like with strangers. When my son told my daughter "You will never succeed in a martial arts, do dance instead like all the good girls" I thought to myself "Mmm, maybe he deserves a lesson" 

6) Do you generally enjoy seeing females beat males in physical contests even on tv and film? 

-Ahahah, if there is a fight, of course I root for the girl! But I prefer other kind of movies rather than action flicks. Tarkovsky is my favorite director I would say. 

7) Can you describe how you felt when your daughter succeeded in tapping out her older brother, your son. Was it any different? 

-I felt...Like a thrill running down my spine!! I was so excited when she got him in that hold!! I was just a bit disappointed that the match was one-sided. I honestly expected a better performance from him, but he was probably beaten psychologically even before than physically, when he understood he didn't stand a chance. So he couldn't stand the tension, let himself go, panicked, and...PUF! The strong, black belt alpha male was trapped in his 16 years old kid sister!! What a shame!!  

8) Do you believe this was a fluke, a one-off, or would your daughter have won a re-match? 

-Absolutely no fluke. He was thinking about asking a rematch at a certain point, but I persuaded him to forget about the idea. She would had easily mopped the floor with him again. 

9) Would you agree that females are only considered physically weak as a result of centuries of social conditioning and that the truth is that females have the potential to physically surpass men? 

-Ha! Well of course men benefit by keeping us weak and ignorant...Of course, women are beginning to show their value in many fields. If we will ever surpass them, I can't say. I don't think women will ever be stronger physically. But we have much more aces to play!! 

10) Did you / Do you feel any guilt about siding with your female child over your male child? 

-Oh no way!! They had a match (under his insistence), the better fighter won, that's all!! After that fight, he may have lost a belt, but he gained something much more valuable in experience ;) 

That's it for now. I look forward to your responses and will probably have more questions....

Many thanks 
Xaan 

-My pleasure! I found this talk very stimulating, I hope you did enjoy the time as well. All the best... 

The Mother

Gender loyalty and the Sisterhood...

I have mentioned this in passing in other articles and comments, but would like to go into a bit more detail on what it means and why it is so important for the Amazon movement.

You may be familiar with the phenomenon of the “xoxo” or “xx” e-mail sign off that came to light a few years ago where females in senior positions in companies & organisations would use these symbols as a covert way of saying to each other “I’ve got your back”. Whatever the situation, I will do everything in my power to help you as a woman. Not sure how it started , but this is a very real and very significant move against patriarchy

I have always observed that females make far more effective teams because women have a natural tendency to look out for each other, whereas men (in an all male situation) have a natural tendency to look out for themselves as individuals. I believe it is this fundamental difference that is the foundation for a successful female dominated society

If we think about it, I’m sure we can all remember experiences that illustrate this. I recall several occasions at school where the PE teachers thought they would have a bit of fun by pitting teams of boys against teams of girls at certain tasks or games (tug of war being a notable one) and to many people’s surprise, the boys total embarrassment and the teacher’s amusement….. the girls always won! Of course at that age we as girls were just more physically capable than the boys anyway, but the other differentiator was our instant and instinctive ability to work together as an effective team whilst the boys, already disorganised and beset with competing egos struggled to get their act together, got frustrated and as a result, succumbed pretty quickly.

One of the more high profile areas where we see gender loyalty in action is the world of high school wrestling in the US. I have read many accounts and there have even been one or two posted on this blog which detail the support female wrestlers have received from females on the opposing teams. This ranges from offering words of encouragement, to sharing info about the male opponent, to openly celebrating when the girl beats their own male team-mate!! I have to admit, there is something completely outrageous about this. Girls blatantly flouting the conventions of team competition to help fellow girls - but I love it!! It seems like these girls have instinctually realised that the ongoing battle between the genders is far more important and significant than the competition between the opposing mixed school teams. Without any direction from above, they have decided by themselves to help and root for fellow girls. even though this might mean that their own team loses. This instinct is so important.

We should all try to assess the strength of our own instinct for gender loyalty. I for one can say that if my own son was facing a girl in the ring or on the mat, I would be rooting for the girl to win 100%. Not that I would make this outwardly obvious, I would of course cheer my son out of respect, but this would be subterfuge, as secretly I would be willing him lose to the girl, even at the risk of him getting hurt. This might sound like a shocking admission to some, but to me it seems perfectly natural and I don’t feel any guilt about it. My belief in female supremacy goes way beyond family loyalty. I think that’s how it has to be. I know I’m not the only one, there are other examples of gender loyalty cutting across family ties.

I was recently contacted privately by a girl who’d read the blog and who wanted to tell me her story. She didn’t want to post the story herself, so I won’t reveal too many details. A top gymnast with a full trophy cabinet, she decided to switch to Judo at age 14. Her brother, 5 years her senior was already a black belt. He must have felt uncomfortable about his switch, because he began to taunt and bully her, telling her she could never succeed in a man’s sport. Well that of course was like a red rag to a bull, so over the next 2 years she trained really hard with the intention of challenging her brother one day to prove him wrong. Well that day came and with the approval and support of her mother, the 16 year-old girl challenged her 21 year-old brother one evening in the family home, after he’d returned from a Judo session.

With the mother looking on, the two siblings locked together in “mortal combat” Expecting the fight of her life, the girl was astonished  that in just under 2 minutes she had submitted her black belt brother! The girl then consolidated the win with a victory pose. She ripped off off his black belt and held it aloft, whilst standing over him with her foot pressed down firmly on his throat. The mother took a photo for posterity, something they had planned together beforehand to make sure the brother could not deny nor forget the experience. Talk about confidence?

There is a lot to love about this story. Certainly something prescient about the mother’s confidence in her daughter’s ability. The mother was clearly keen for this contest to take place. She wanted her daughter to win and knew that she would, despite her being 5 years younger and with many years less experience. Furthermore, the mother was perfectly happy to show favouritism towards her daughter over her son, despite the risk of a family rift - that’s true gender loyalty.

I firmly believe that this female instinct to support each other in the face of patriarchal domination, will be decisive in the battle of the sexes. It makes a female dominated society of the future ...inevitable and we can all do our bit. How gender loyal are you?

100 Pull ups for time - Battle of the sexes

A perfect demonstration of what I and others have been describing on this blog for years now - the pure efficiency of female muscle.....Thanks to yboy for finding this clip...