Can you freaking believe this in 2020???

A Sydney woman has revealed she was “asked to leave” her gym after being told her outfit was showing “so much skin”. 

Gabi Goddard from Hornsby was wearing a pair of grey bike shorts and a black crop top on Friday when she said she was approached by a member of staff and asked to go home and “change” before she could continue her workout.

When she asked why, the 27-year-old was told a class of teenage schoolkids were being taught in the same fitness facility and the teacher was concerned about the “children seeing so much skin”.

Angry, Gabi shared a photo of her outfit on Instagram, stating it was a “hot day” and the gym had “no airconditioning on”.

She also shared a screenshot of the complaint she sent to the school where the teacher worked, claiming the teacher behaved “inappropriately”.

“I am horrified that your school has sway over the clothing choices (and freedom to exercise) of an independent adult woman,” Gabi wrote.

“Moreover, your school is perpetuating the values (with real life consequences) that are demonstrably harmful. Namely that we live in a world where 14-year-old boys are given priority over women. Where women are punished for boy’s and men’s propensity for objectifying women.”

Gabi went on to say that her outfit was in “no way gratuitous” and violated “no dress codes”.

“I have worn such outfits at many gyms and never had a single complaint,” she said. “It is discouraging that this particular complaint came from a person charged with moulding our next generation into well-round (sic) adults, ones who respect women and shun rape culture.”

Gabi’s letter quickly caught attention, with her post being shared by well-known feminist Clementine Ford and the Instagram page The Nasty Woman Club.

“This stuff drives me crazy, I wouldn’t want my daughter being told what to wear by a stranger,” one person wrote on Instagram.

“This is infuriating, please tell us how we can support this complaint, I am outraged,” another said.

“I’m the mother of an 11yo boy and I expect no one to change their outfit for his benefit,” someone else added.

Others said they were “mad” and branded the situation “unacceptable”.

Gabi said many asked her why the gym owner didn’t stand up for her, explaining while they “absolutely should have” she was aware the owners had “struggled during COVID” and didn’t feel comfortable saying no to the teacher as it could jeopardise the gym’s contract with the school.

She shared her letter of complaint addressed to the school where the teacher worked. Picture: Instagram/Gabi GoddardSource:Instagram

In it she expressed concern at what the complaint teaches the students. Picture: Instagram/Gabi GoddardSource:Instagram 

Open Thread

What are we not talking about, that we should be? 

Gender loyalty - Interview with the mother...

The following is a short interview conducted via e-mail with the Mother...

Many thanks for agreeing to answer a few questions regarding your daughter's story....As you know I referenced in on a post I wrote on my blog about gender loyalty in females. For me it seemed like an excellent example of gender loyalty because it cut across family ties, so I just wanted to understand a bit more backround about your beliefs and principles if that's OK?

-Hi Xaan! I am flattered that you sent me this mail to talk about the subject. Let's start!! 

1) Would you describe yourself as believer in Female Supremacy? 

-Hum...Good question! Supremacy is a term which I can't relate very much, I can say that I believe that a matriarchal society would work better than the one where we, sadly, are condemned to live. But reversing the oppresion and committing the same mistakes made by men is something I can't find appealing. Altough...Marx said that the peaceful living among classes should be proceded by a proletarian dictatorship. So, maybe before a peaceful coexistence between the sexes we need some centuries of female supremacy? Who knows?!? Ahahaha... 

2) When your daughter first mentioned that she wanted to switch from Gymnastics to Judo, the sport your son was involved in, what was your reaction?

-I just said GO GIRL!!! Of course I had to encourage her  

3) How soon after this did she mention taking on her brother at Judo? 

-She did not. If he didn't start to taunt her, she would never had challenged him. This wasn't in her plans. 

4) At 5 years yonger and many years less experience than her brother, on paper this was a hopeless mis-match. What made you think she could succeed in her plan, why did you have so much faith in her ability? 

-Of course all those years as a gymnast shaped her body and her mind to train much harder than my son was used to. She had better conditioning and had surely more stamina and explosive strenght. Plus, she has a very high I.Q.! Above 160. I always said that fighting is skills and brain before raw strenght. I don't know the I.Q. of my son because he never measured it but... I expected her to provide a better fighting tactic than him and in fact, she did :) 

5) For even allowing this contest to go-ahead, would I be right in thinking that not only were you confident in a female over male victory, you were actually relishing it? If so, could you elaborate as to why? 

-When I was taking my second degree (in philosophy) I was attending a seminar about Carla Lonzi. One of her senteces remained stuck inside my head "Is important with men to quit the values they created for you". Then, I could not understand my feminists companions that, after their first child, they gave up and betrayed their ideology for maternal instinct and became overprotective especially with their sons. The first thing I told to myself was that I would had never allow that, and that I would had act inside the family like with strangers. When my son told my daughter "You will never succeed in a martial arts, do dance instead like all the good girls" I thought to myself "Mmm, maybe he deserves a lesson" 

6) Do you generally enjoy seeing females beat males in physical contests even on tv and film? 

-Ahahah, if there is a fight, of course I root for the girl! But I prefer other kind of movies rather than action flicks. Tarkovsky is my favorite director I would say. 

7) Can you describe how you felt when your daughter succeeded in tapping out her older brother, your son. Was it any different? 

-I felt...Like a thrill running down my spine!! I was so excited when she got him in that hold!! I was just a bit disappointed that the match was one-sided. I honestly expected a better performance from him, but he was probably beaten psychologically even before than physically, when he understood he didn't stand a chance. So he couldn't stand the tension, let himself go, panicked, and...PUF! The strong, black belt alpha male was trapped in his 16 years old kid sister!! What a shame!!  

8) Do you believe this was a fluke, a one-off, or would your daughter have won a re-match? 

-Absolutely no fluke. He was thinking about asking a rematch at a certain point, but I persuaded him to forget about the idea. She would had easily mopped the floor with him again. 

9) Would you agree that females are only considered physically weak as a result of centuries of social conditioning and that the truth is that females have the potential to physically surpass men? 

-Ha! Well of course men benefit by keeping us weak and ignorant...Of course, women are beginning to show their value in many fields. If we will ever surpass them, I can't say. I don't think women will ever be stronger physically. But we have much more aces to play!! 

10) Did you / Do you feel any guilt about siding with your female child over your male child? 

-Oh no way!! They had a match (under his insistence), the better fighter won, that's all!! After that fight, he may have lost a belt, but he gained something much more valuable in experience ;) 

That's it for now. I look forward to your responses and will probably have more questions....

Many thanks 
Xaan 

-My pleasure! I found this talk very stimulating, I hope you did enjoy the time as well. All the best... 

The Mother