After reading a recent comment which gave a great first hand account of being beaten up by a woman, I was reminded of another man's experience which was shared with me by a friend on another forum some years ago.....a much more sublte experience but just as effective...
I was at a friend’s house party some years
ago and the morning after, several of us were nursing minor hangovers and
lounging around the house. I was lying on a large sofa and one of the young
girls who had spent the night at the house was lying with her head resting on
the opposite arm so she and I were toe to toe. The Girl was quite attractive.
Approx 5ft 8 and I remember someone saying she was only 17 years old.
We started messing around in a very
flirtatious way and a game of "footsie" developed into kind of
wrestling with our legs, trying to claim the available space on the sofa. She
was the kind of girl that didn't say much but giggled a lot. This playing
around escalated and after a while and eventually got to the point where the
soles our feet were perfectly together and we were playfully pushing eachother
back and forth. After several minutes of this, I thought, right I'm going to
have a laugh and kick her off the sofa. I was probably the fittest I've ever
been at the time, in the gym 4 times a week and touching 195 lbs of leanness
(honest). Anyway so I pushed hard with both legs, but she pushed back harder -
still giggling. I was quite taken aback by the strength of such a young girl,
so out of curiosity more than anything, I pushed back again, but again she
pushed back even harder without any sign of exertion. Exasperated I thought
“Something is wrong here” and I gave it another go, but could only watch in
amazement as she effortlessly forced my knees right back up to my chin, again
with no sign of exertion. Then I thought – “Right, I can’t have this” and I
gave it one last push with (I'm not kidding) all my strength, but this time
with a sudden jolt so as to take her by surprise. I succeeded in pushing her
legs back at first, but again she responded, this time with a kind of force
that I had never experienced before (not even on a rugby field) I tried my
absolute hardest to resist, but to my utter astonishment, I was powerless to
stop her!! My very best effort was being crushed, seemingly with ease and my
knees ended up right back under my chin. Not satisfied with this and clearly
not impressed with my underhand tactics, she continued to push and kick,
driving me further up onto the arm of the sofa.
My hands gripped the fabric of that sofa
for all I was worth, but it was no use, I just couldn't hold on. Her legs were
like hydraulic rams!!!! I felt the blood drain from my face as I completely
lost control of the situation. My whole body seemed to defy gravity and amid
feelings of total disbelief I was sent flying onto the floor like a rag doll.
It really was like being hit by a bulldozer! This elicited even more giggling
as she reveled in her victory. But what really got me was the air of calmness
about her, like she knew all along she was going to win this contest and it was
no big surprise to her.
I was in shock, my male pride crucified and
I did the usual thing of playing the fool to hide my embarrassment; you know -
exaggerating my reaction and making out as if I’d play acted the whole thing
and pretty much pulled it off too in front of the others who were in the room –
not that anyone was really paying attention. Inside though I was gob-smacked
and fuming.
For months afterwards I tried all manner of
ways to explain away to myself what had happened there, but for a guy, being
totally owned by a much younger girl is not something that has too many
ready-made excuses. Try as I might, I could not avoid having the devastating
thought that with that kind of strength at her disposal, that young girl could
have totally destroyed me in a physical fight – big tough guy that I was at the
time. There was nothing out of the ordinary about the girl so it also meant
that if she could get the better me as a fully grown man, then there were any
number of girls out there that could do the same – or worse! That thought has
haunted, enthralled and fascinated me in equal measure ever since. To think
that I was 29 at the time, in my physical prime and scared of no man. She was a
girl of only 17 years and she annihilated me!
Scary huh, who would believe it? Was it
just a freak occurrence or are females just much, much stronger than we like to
think? – Having been on the receiving end and taking into account my other
experiences direct and indirect - I know what I think!
So there you go, these things do happen and
probably far more often than we realise. I'm actually glad I had this
experience. Sure, for a guy - being beaten by a girl is still incredibly
humiliating - but it really shouldn’t be. That humiliation is caused by a collective
and ingrained belief that females are physically weaker. Once you accept the
uncomfortable truth – which is that girls are NOT weaker - but potentially stronger than guys – then
the humiliation just evaporates and it seems normal.
For me, it was almost impossible to believe
that having done so much sports and spent so many hours in the gym conditioning
my body and succeeding in raising my status in the physical pecking order
amongst other guys, that I could get so totally destroyed by a girl who had
probably never seen the inside of a gym - and one so much younger than me!!
It may only have been a bit of goofing
around – but the fact remains I was SO sure I would be stronger than her – but
in the event -she was stronger than me – Much stronger!!
Losing to a girl is SO tough for guys to
accept - You get completely disoriented as everything you know is turned on its
head. We just cannot get our heads
around it and it can cause serious mental anguish for guys who fail to deal
with it correctly.
I was lucky, in my case I found that once
my inner turmoil had subsided, my feelings of shock, humiliation and rage
eventually give way to a more logical thought process and peaceful feelings of
acceptance. I’m not saying I don’t get a shiver down my spine when I think
about it sometimes and somewhere deep down it still hurts, but I have pretty
much come to terms with the fact that girls are by nature, designed to be
physically stronger and tougher than guys. We have perverted the course of
nature by the way we organize our societies and assign gender roles and this
has masked an indisputable fact for centuries.
I don't feel any less of a man for my
experiences, in fact in many ways I feel more of a man that I can accept the
real facts of life and not be a slave to my male ego. Men are designed to fight
other men and on that front I have always given a good account of myself. Girls
fight from a completely different standpoint to guys and are by nature more
ferocious hence the clichés “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” and “The
female of the species is more deadly than the male” We like to package women up
as being weak and dependant because it suits us to do that – but nothing could
be further from the truth - so I don’t feel in anyway diminished by my
experiences against girls. For me, being overpowered by a much younger girl
confirmed something that I had secretly suspected for years anyway i.e that
females are the true superior sex and that all that is holding them back is
social conditioning. So it was actually a liberating experience, it certainly
changed the way I view females….